The Power of Positive Feedback on Confidence

I get thanked. A lot.

From friends, colleagues, clients—whoever. And every time, I’m genuinely honored. But here’s the thing: it still surprises me.

Therapy is often said to be a thankless job, but I’ll tell you right now—I’ve never experienced it that way. The gratitude I receive is powerful and humbling, especially because I know the difference it makes in people’s lives.

There was a time when I used to feel uncomfortable with thank-yous and compliments. I’d brush them off, saying things like, “Oh, it’s nothing” or “You don’t have to thank me.”

But over time, I learned something important: That was a disservice—not just to me, but to the person giving their heartfelt appreciation. They were offering something meaningful, and I was deflecting it.

Here’s a truth that is so important to remember when you start to dismiss gratitude from someone: They don’t have to thank you. Most people won’t. So when someone does? It means something to them.

A few years ago, I made a shift. Instead of minimizing their gratitude, I started leaning into it. I decided to accept it fully and appreciate it with my whole heart.

Now, when someone thanks me, I don’t hesitate. I say, “I’m so happy I could help.” And I really mean it.

And honestly? Sometimes, I get a little teary-eyed. I’m not ashamed to admit it. I feel it deeply. I’m overjoyed that I made someone’s life easier or better in a way that meant so much to them that they came back to thank me months later.

The truth is, most of the time, helping others wasn’t a huge sacrifice. It didn’t drain me. It was within my boundaries of giving and helping. It was simply sharing something that helped me, offering a fresh perspective, or making a decision easier for someone. Sometimes, it was as simple as normalizing getting help or suggesting a new approach. And the impact? Immense.

Here’s what this taught me: Confidence isn’t something you just “get.” It’s something you build by taking in positive feedback and letting it sink in. Every time someone thanks me, I take in a little more confidence—not just for the work I’ve done, but for the person I’m becoming.

Accepting positive feedback doesn’t mean you get complacent or lose humility. It means you’re recognizing your worth and acknowledging the value you bring to others. In doing that, you reinforce your confidence—and make it stronger with each experience.

So here’s my challenge to you:

Next time someone expresses their appreciation to you, accept it. Don’t brush it off. Don’t minimize it. Let their words sink in.

In doing so, you’re not just honoring them—you’re honoring yourself.

It’s not about arrogance. It’s about owning your impact and recognizing that the work you do, the life you lead, and the kindness you offer are worth celebrating and have meaning. And that is where true confidence is born.

Ready to take the next step in building your confidence?

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With gratitude, confidence, and growth,

Zoe

P.S. How do you handle gratitude and compliments? Do you brush them off like I used to, or do you accept them fully? I’d love to hear about it—leave a comment below.